Day 17 – Gratitude (is it really all it’s talked up to
be when it come to healing? Is it something you practice?)
Heck yes! It is also an extremely hard thing to ‘decide’
to feel in the midst of grief. We chose from the start to focus on celebrating
what we did have, to celebrate Lily for as long as we had her, rather than to
spend her life dwelling on what we were going to lose. I had nothing to do with
denial or anything, it was cherishing her, knowing she was a blessing to our
lives.
After our Lily was gone, the pain was of course, real
and extreme. That’s what love does. However, someone suggested I try to find
something positive in each day, some days it was hard, sometimes the positive
was “getting up”. Because some days the grief was overwhelming. But the simple
act of thinking on positives, or things to be grateful for gave me the
opportunity to refocus and whether it worked on not each day, it did always
remind me that my pain was the result of having something that was so hard to
say goodbye to. The pain was always worth it.
To this day, remembering what we lost, reminds me of what I had, what I have and the importance of valuing it today, of making the most of it, of being present with those I love and in how I choose to spend my time.
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